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How to Remove False or Unhelpful Internalizations From Your Childhood #PODCAST

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What false or unhelpful beliefs are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

Listen up, because this episode is all about how we internalize things from our childhood which hold us back even in our adulthood, and what to do about it. This is a sort of part two from last week, which explained how to form new positive beliefs. This one is all about removing old negative beliefs.

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say! Here’s my thought question for you today:

What internalizations from your childhood are you holding on to that are holding you back in life? What are you going to do about it?

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development. How’s it going out there today?

I was thinking the other day about this song that we learned in school as a kid.

I asked my husband if he ever heard that song and he said No, so I’m not sure if it was just my elementary school, but I got to thinking about this song and what it meant and it really started to upset me because… Well, I’ll sing the song to you so you get what I mean…

One person, starts off by pointing at someone and saying, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar.”

And then everyone repeats it, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

Then Tommy says “No I didn’t”

And everyone says “Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Tommy chooses someone to blame, for cookie thievery, “Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“No I didn’t”

“Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Sally says, “Johnny stole the cookie from the cookie jar…” and so on.

So the moral of the story is, if someone blames you for something, blame someone else?

Where is this cookie jar, anyway? That’s what I’d like to know. How come we never got any cookies?

Teacher stole the entire cookie jar! Oh yeah she did. That’s what really happened!

Or she never brought us a cookie jar in the first place!

But anyway getting back to seriousness, what this song teaches is pointing the finger, blaming, and lack of taking responsibility.

It’s a really weird song to sing in school for 6 year olds.

So some kids are going to internalize that song and think that everyone is going to blame them for things they didn’t do.

Some kids are going to internalize that song and think they can be mischievous because if they get caught they can just blame it on someone else.

Some kid should just stand up and go “well, I didn’t take any cookies, but I’ll tell you what, I’ll ask my mom if she can bake us a batch of chocolate chip cookies and I’ll bring them to class next time.”

Now that would have been awesome.

I wish I thought of that at the time, but I was way too shy and conservative not to “follow the rules of the game”.

So I went along with it and didn’t think about it until over 20 years later, how screwed up that song is to teach children.

You might say, “Oh who cares? It’s all in good fun. Stop being such a goodie goodie.”

But I say no, it’s more than that. And kids really are actually impressionable. And like I said, we all internalize things as children, and we all internalize different things.

Tony Robbins had a client named Rechaud, who stuttered for his entire life, as long as he could remember.

Tony asked him what his earliest memory was.

He said probably watching Rocky and Bullwinkle cartoon.

Tony said, “That’s interesting. Didn’t Bullwinkle stutter? Every time he was in trouble he would call out “R-R-Rocky”. And Rocky would come and save him and everything would be fine.”

Tony told him that kids typically internalize things because of some sort of trauma.

He asked him what else happened in his childhood? And Rechaud said that his parents used to fight a lot.

Tony said, “So you developed a stutter to get your parents’ attention, to stop the fighting, just like Bullwinkle stuttered when he was in trouble. So now there was a new problem for your parents to focus on, and they stopped fighting. So you’ve stuttered all your life because subconsciously that is what solves your problems. But now you’re a man, and stuttering has become your problem. You don’t have to be a two year old anymore. You can be a man. You can be a warrior. Does a warrior stutter? No!”

Anyway, long story short, Tony did a couple little exercises with Rechaud and he immediately stopped stuttering, for good!

And most people can’t believe this can be true. How can someone just rid themselves of stuttering when it’s been a problem for their entire life?

Well, it’s because when we internalize something, we don’t know why we do it, we just do.

When we realize why we do the things we do, when we realize where the problem stems from, we can finally move on from that problem.

It doesn’t mean you’re always gonna get cured from things once you realize why it’s all happening, but it is possible, and that’s what happened for Rechaud.

What are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

That’s something to think about and figure out.

So STEP ONE is to figure out what events from your childhood that you have internalized, are holding you back from achieving what success means to you.

And STEP TWO is to go through my 4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs, which you can find at upgusto.com/newbeliefs

Thanks for joining me. Share this with your friends and family, and I’ll be back next time with some more great stuff.

Thanks!

Don’t forget to leave a comment, and answer my thought question that I have for you above. You should be able to see it in the small light-gray box with bolded font. Check it out, and answer it in a comment :)

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4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs and Ridding Yourself of Bad Habits #VIDEO

Ever find it hard to get bad brainwashing out of your subconscious and form new positive thoughts that really stick?

Well, you’ve been programmed for years, so what makes you think you’re going to do it over night?

Be patient, but also, use this trick every single day, and you’ll be closer and closer to forming new positive beliefs that will help you become the best you that you’ve ever been!

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If you’d prefer to read it rather than watch or listen, the podcast transcript is below!

Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say! Here’s my thought question for you today:

What do you think of this as an idea to form new positive beliefs and rid yourself of bad habits? Have you ever tried it? Leave a comment!

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development, and I wanted to teach you a little trick to change any bad habit in your life.

The funny thing is that we have always told ourselves we are one thing or another (and others have told us too).

So we hold these beliefs about ourselves which hold us back. And when we replace the old belief with a new belief (even if it’s not true yet), we eventually start to believe the new belief over the old one.

I like to say “I am” as if it’s a true statement (even if it isn’t yet).

So instead of thinking, “If only I could lose weight” we can say “I am a healthy person and I do and eat what a healthy person does”.

If we keep telling ourselves that we are healthy, and we only do and eat what a healthy person does, eventually, we will gradually become healthier and live a healthier life.

We will start to see ourselves in a different way. We won’t keep having the same old beliefs about ourselves that we crave junk food.

Instead, we’ll begin to crave vegetables and things that nourish our body, and crave activity over being sedentary.

We can even go into more detail about it to solidify the new belief even more.

Let’s say someone really enjoys fast food, so they eat so much fast food that they can’t lose weight (in fact, they just keep gaining weight).

So they can replace the thought “I really like fast food” with “I hate fast food, it’s so disgusting. I never want to eat fast food again in my life.”

Eventually, if someone said that to themselves every day, they would gradually enjoy fast food less and less until they really didn’t like it and really didn’t want to eat it, and eventually, they really would be disgusted by fast food.

And if they’re not eating fast food, they would have to replace their meals with something else, and it would almost definitely be healthier, so they would be that much more likely to lose weight.

So here’s my four step process for forming new beliefs:

Step one, get a stack of notecards and a pen or marker, and write out all the new beliefs you wish to gain, one belief per notecard.

And every time you have some problem you want to solve about yourself, you can add another notecard to your pile, to create a new belief.

Step two, read each notecard out loud every morning, with a smile on your face, and with an excited, believable tone of voice.

Step three, record yourself reading your new belief notecards out loud and listen to them every day (or multiple times per day).

And finally, Step four, write down each new belief again, every single day in a journal.

This may seem time consuming, but if you want to make a good change in your life, then you’ll do what it takes. It could really only take about 5 minutes per day, so when you think about it that way, would you spend 5 minutes per day to make an awesome change in yourself so you can live a happier life? I would!

So once you feel you’ve mastered something, you can remove the notecard if you want (to save time, since that stack of new beliefs can get pretty big if you’re taking it seriously and adding more new beliefs to your stack).

And if you start to slip back into old patterns, you can always bring that notecard back into your daily reading pile to get back on track again.

This process works because you are reading your new beliefs (so you’re seeing it with your eyes), saying your new beliefs (saying things out loud helps confirm them), writing out your new beliefs (so you’re solidifying the new beliefs even more), and listening to you saying your new beliefs (so you also hear it with your ears).

So doing all of these things together touches on more of the senses and different parts of the brain, which helps it really become ingrained and real to your brain, so that eventually you really believe it about yourself and you start making real positive lasting changes in your life.

So go get some notecards right now and get started.

Do me a quick favor and share this with your friends and family, so they can begin to move forward and achieve the goals and lifestyle they want as well.

And thanks for joining me, I’ll see you next time.

What are some ideas that you have that have helped you form new beliefs to replace your old negative ones? Let me know in a comment!

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