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How to Remove False or Unhelpful Internalizations From Your Childhood #PODCAST

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What false or unhelpful beliefs are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

Listen up, because this episode is all about how we internalize things from our childhood which hold us back even in our adulthood, and what to do about it. This is a sort of part two from last week, which explained how to form new positive beliefs. This one is all about removing old negative beliefs.

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say! Here’s my thought question for you today:

What internalizations from your childhood are you holding on to that are holding you back in life? What are you going to do about it?

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development. How’s it going out there today?

I was thinking the other day about this song that we learned in school as a kid.

I asked my husband if he ever heard that song and he said No, so I’m not sure if it was just my elementary school, but I got to thinking about this song and what it meant and it really started to upset me because… Well, I’ll sing the song to you so you get what I mean…

One person, starts off by pointing at someone and saying, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar.”

And then everyone repeats it, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

Then Tommy says “No I didn’t”

And everyone says “Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Tommy chooses someone to blame, for cookie thievery, “Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“No I didn’t”

“Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Sally says, “Johnny stole the cookie from the cookie jar…” and so on.

So the moral of the story is, if someone blames you for something, blame someone else?

Where is this cookie jar, anyway? That’s what I’d like to know. How come we never got any cookies?

Teacher stole the entire cookie jar! Oh yeah she did. That’s what really happened!

Or she never brought us a cookie jar in the first place!

But anyway getting back to seriousness, what this song teaches is pointing the finger, blaming, and lack of taking responsibility.

It’s a really weird song to sing in school for 6 year olds.

So some kids are going to internalize that song and think that everyone is going to blame them for things they didn’t do.

Some kids are going to internalize that song and think they can be mischievous because if they get caught they can just blame it on someone else.

Some kid should just stand up and go “well, I didn’t take any cookies, but I’ll tell you what, I’ll ask my mom if she can bake us a batch of chocolate chip cookies and I’ll bring them to class next time.”

Now that would have been awesome.

I wish I thought of that at the time, but I was way too shy and conservative not to “follow the rules of the game”.

So I went along with it and didn’t think about it until over 20 years later, how screwed up that song is to teach children.

You might say, “Oh who cares? It’s all in good fun. Stop being such a goodie goodie.”

But I say no, it’s more than that. And kids really are actually impressionable. And like I said, we all internalize things as children, and we all internalize different things.

Tony Robbins had a client named Rechaud, who stuttered for his entire life, as long as he could remember.

Tony asked him what his earliest memory was.

He said probably watching Rocky and Bullwinkle cartoon.

Tony said, “That’s interesting. Didn’t Bullwinkle stutter? Every time he was in trouble he would call out “R-R-Rocky”. And Rocky would come and save him and everything would be fine.”

Tony told him that kids typically internalize things because of some sort of trauma.

He asked him what else happened in his childhood? And Rechaud said that his parents used to fight a lot.

Tony said, “So you developed a stutter to get your parents’ attention, to stop the fighting, just like Bullwinkle stuttered when he was in trouble. So now there was a new problem for your parents to focus on, and they stopped fighting. So you’ve stuttered all your life because subconsciously that is what solves your problems. But now you’re a man, and stuttering has become your problem. You don’t have to be a two year old anymore. You can be a man. You can be a warrior. Does a warrior stutter? No!”

Anyway, long story short, Tony did a couple little exercises with Rechaud and he immediately stopped stuttering, for good!

And most people can’t believe this can be true. How can someone just rid themselves of stuttering when it’s been a problem for their entire life?

Well, it’s because when we internalize something, we don’t know why we do it, we just do.

When we realize why we do the things we do, when we realize where the problem stems from, we can finally move on from that problem.

It doesn’t mean you’re always gonna get cured from things once you realize why it’s all happening, but it is possible, and that’s what happened for Rechaud.

What are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

That’s something to think about and figure out.

So STEP ONE is to figure out what events from your childhood that you have internalized, are holding you back from achieving what success means to you.

And STEP TWO is to go through my 4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs, which you can find at upgusto.com/newbeliefs

Thanks for joining me. Share this with your friends and family, and I’ll be back next time with some more great stuff.

Thanks!

Don’t forget to leave a comment, and answer my thought question that I have for you above. You should be able to see it in the small light-gray box with bolded font. Check it out, and answer it in a comment :)

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4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs and Ridding Yourself of Bad Habits #VIDEO

Ever find it hard to get bad brainwashing out of your subconscious and form new positive thoughts that really stick?

Well, you’ve been programmed for years, so what makes you think you’re going to do it over night?

Be patient, but also, use this trick every single day, and you’ll be closer and closer to forming new positive beliefs that will help you become the best you that you’ve ever been!

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say! Here’s my thought question for you today:

What do you think of this as an idea to form new positive beliefs and rid yourself of bad habits? Have you ever tried it? Leave a comment!

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development, and I wanted to teach you a little trick to change any bad habit in your life.

The funny thing is that we have always told ourselves we are one thing or another (and others have told us too).

So we hold these beliefs about ourselves which hold us back. And when we replace the old belief with a new belief (even if it’s not true yet), we eventually start to believe the new belief over the old one.

I like to say “I am” as if it’s a true statement (even if it isn’t yet).

So instead of thinking, “If only I could lose weight” we can say “I am a healthy person and I do and eat what a healthy person does”.

If we keep telling ourselves that we are healthy, and we only do and eat what a healthy person does, eventually, we will gradually become healthier and live a healthier life.

We will start to see ourselves in a different way. We won’t keep having the same old beliefs about ourselves that we crave junk food.

Instead, we’ll begin to crave vegetables and things that nourish our body, and crave activity over being sedentary.

We can even go into more detail about it to solidify the new belief even more.

Let’s say someone really enjoys fast food, so they eat so much fast food that they can’t lose weight (in fact, they just keep gaining weight).

So they can replace the thought “I really like fast food” with “I hate fast food, it’s so disgusting. I never want to eat fast food again in my life.”

Eventually, if someone said that to themselves every day, they would gradually enjoy fast food less and less until they really didn’t like it and really didn’t want to eat it, and eventually, they really would be disgusted by fast food.

And if they’re not eating fast food, they would have to replace their meals with something else, and it would almost definitely be healthier, so they would be that much more likely to lose weight.

So here’s my four step process for forming new beliefs:

Step one, get a stack of notecards and a pen or marker, and write out all the new beliefs you wish to gain, one belief per notecard.

And every time you have some problem you want to solve about yourself, you can add another notecard to your pile, to create a new belief.

Step two, read each notecard out loud every morning, with a smile on your face, and with an excited, believable tone of voice.

Step three, record yourself reading your new belief notecards out loud and listen to them every day (or multiple times per day).

And finally, Step four, write down each new belief again, every single day in a journal.

This may seem time consuming, but if you want to make a good change in your life, then you’ll do what it takes. It could really only take about 5 minutes per day, so when you think about it that way, would you spend 5 minutes per day to make an awesome change in yourself so you can live a happier life? I would!

So once you feel you’ve mastered something, you can remove the notecard if you want (to save time, since that stack of new beliefs can get pretty big if you’re taking it seriously and adding more new beliefs to your stack).

And if you start to slip back into old patterns, you can always bring that notecard back into your daily reading pile to get back on track again.

This process works because you are reading your new beliefs (so you’re seeing it with your eyes), saying your new beliefs (saying things out loud helps confirm them), writing out your new beliefs (so you’re solidifying the new beliefs even more), and listening to you saying your new beliefs (so you also hear it with your ears).

So doing all of these things together touches on more of the senses and different parts of the brain, which helps it really become ingrained and real to your brain, so that eventually you really believe it about yourself and you start making real positive lasting changes in your life.

So go get some notecards right now and get started.

Do me a quick favor and share this with your friends and family, so they can begin to move forward and achieve the goals and lifestyle they want as well.

And thanks for joining me, I’ll see you next time.

What are some ideas that you have that have helped you form new beliefs to replace your old negative ones? Let me know in a comment!

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How Personal Responsibility Empowers You to Reach Your Goals #PODCAST

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Today I’m revisiting a post from a few months ago because I finally made a podcast out of it so you can listen while you work (or just sit and listen to absorb some good vibes and smart talk).

Listen now to find out how taking personal responsibility increases your self reliance and resourcefulness, and empowers you to actually finally accomplish your goals and turn your dreams to reality.

If you keep blaming your circumstances or your past or other people on your current situation, you’re never going to get what you want out of life. If you take responsibility, then that empowers you to make changes that are necessary to get you to move forward toward your goals.

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

What are you relying on in life to stay comfortable instead of using your own personal strength and skills to get ahead? What changes are you going to make to empower yourself to reach your goals?

Do you agree that if you take responsibility for your life that you are that much more likely to succeed?

Let me know what you think! Leave a comment below!

Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read each and every one! Thanks for contributing to the discussion :)

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development, and today I wanted to talk to you about personal responsibility.

There was a man named Peter. And he grew up in a poor family. So he knew he had to work really hard to get ahead. So he got really good grades in school. And he even studied other trades and businesses. And eventually he came to run a successful catering business. What he ended up doing was trying to put a lot of his profits back into his business, in advertising and marketing, and into expanding his business and hiring more employees, and giving them top notch benefits and big bonuses every year.

And although he put a lot of his profits back into his business, he still earned a large sum every year, so obviously he taxes were high. A portion of Peter’s income that he slaved away to generate over years of hard work went to the government to use as they see fit. And of course, some of that goes to welfare.

Welfare was created during the great depression in 1935 when the US unemployment rate was at 20% still. This began the dependence on government aid, and that is really what it has become.

George Bernard Shaw, who is a playwright and cofounder of the London School of Economics says that “A government that robs Peter to pay Paul, can expect the support of Paul. So Paul is definitely going to support the government that robs Peter to pay him.

I’m not saying that people shouldn’t give their fair share. If you have more, then you have more to give. But what I am saying is that the government not only is helping family in their time of need, but they also enable families to continue to be in a lifelong time of need.

So these families that are on welfare know that they will always have the government to lean on in their times of need. If they can’t get ahead, it’s okay because they don’t really need to. And so they don’t get ahead. It’s not because they don’t really want to. It’s because it’s really hard. It takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of effort, it takes hard work. It takes patience and sacrifice. And it’s not easy, so most people think that they can’t do it, and not only that, but most people know they don’t have to. So living in poverty has become the status quo for them. It’s become comfortable. And it seems weird and ironic that struggling financially can become comfortable, but that’s what it is. It’s like the woman who stays in the abusive relationship. It’s familiar. It’s harmful, but it’s familiar.

So what harmful things do you keep doing, just because it’s familiar?

People like to complain about their lives and they don’t want to take responsibility, but everyone has the same hope for succeeding whether it be financially, relationally, physically, or spiritually. It’s just that successful people take different steps, and they take different actions, and they make different choices.

What do you want to become successful in? What does success mean to you? Are you going to do what it takes to get there. Are you going to work hard. Are you going to buckle down and get the hard work done? Are you willing to make sacrifices in order to live a better more fulfilling life? Then stop living the status quo, start believing in yourself and start doing what it takes to get to where you want in life.

Do you want to want to lose 20 lbs? Do you want to have a thriving marriage full of passion? Do you want to become a millionaire? Or maybe you want to start a non-profit that helps those that are less fortunate.

What do you want to do with your life?

If you keep blaming your circumstances or your past or other people on your current situation, you’re never going to get what you want out of life. If you take responsibility, then that empowers you to make changes that are necessary to get you to move forward toward your goals.

We’re not in control of everything. But anything that you have control over, then it’s time to take control of it. Start taking personal responsibility for where you are in life right now. And start making the necessary changes to get what you want out of life.

What habits can you change right now, even just a little bit, to get you closer to your goals?

Do it, starting today.

Now I want to hear from you. In a comment below, please answer this question: What are you relying on in life to stay comfortable instead of using your own personal strength and skills to get ahead? What changes are you going to make to empower yourself to reach your goals?

One Cool Trick to Increase Your Positivity and Motivation #PODCAST

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Listening to motivational speakers on a daily basis increases your positivity, motivation, and your belief in yourself.

Listen now to see how spending just a bit of time each day listening to your favorite motivational speakers can improve your life tremendously:

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

Do you listen to motivational speakers on a regular basis? How has that helped improve your life?

Do you agree that listening to motivational speakers gets you going and energizes you to accomplish your biggest goals?

Leave a comment at the bottom of this post and let me know your thoughts!

Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read each and every one! Thanks for contributing to the discussion :)

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody it’s Lisha Yost, founder of UpGusto Personal Development. And today I wanted to talk to you a little bit about positivity and remaining positive, and how much of a difference that can make in your life.

I have found that the more I listen to motivational speakers every day, I could just turn on some type of audio recording, listen to that while I do my work. Do that about a half an hour a day, or just all day long, I just find that I enjoy my day so much more, and I even enjoy mundane tasks that I wouldn’t normally like to do.

So I totally recommend just spending some time each day listening to a motivational speaker, or watching a motivational video, or reading some motivational materials, because the funny thing is humans need motivation in order to get anything done, and we need energy to get anything done. And motivation creates energy.

So if you listen to motivational speakers talking into your brain, their positivity, you’ll find that you’ll end up getting more done, you’ll enjoy your day that much more, and you even enjoy the things you don’t like to do.

You may have a goal in life that you want to accomplish and everything else gets in the way and you don’t end up spending any time on moving forward in life and accomplishing the goals you want to accomplish, and turning your dreams into reality. Well, motivational videos, and audio, and reading motivational articles, it gets you that much more likely to do something on a daily basis that will get you to where you want to be in life.

It’s actually scientifically proven that positive people tend to be more successful, and positive people get more done, and positive people make a bigger difference in the world. So, if you’re positive, you’re going to have a better life, the people around you are going to have a better life, and you’re going to make the world a better place. That’s 3 reasons why you should listen to motivational speakers on a daily basis, so that, on a daily basis, you are doing something to get ahead, to accomplish your goals, to become a better person, and to make the world a better place.

Start searching for motivational speakers that really speak to you, that really motivate you, to get you going, and to energize you so that you get stuff done, and you get stuff done that you actually want to do that will move you forward and ahead, and toward where you actually want to be in life.

I know for me, listening to motivational speakers really helps me on a daily basis, and it has made me a much more positive person. And it just amazes me how much more positive I am when I’m just hearing other positive people talking.
You can actually become more positive too. When you’re a negative person, you don’t think you want to be more positive, but when you become more positive, you realize how much better your life is, no matter what you’re circumstances are.

So I encourage you to listen to some motivational speakers every single day.

Get motivated, get energize, get stuff done, get ahead, move forward, make a difference, and I’ll see you next time.

Do you agree that listening to motivational speakers gets you going and energizes you to accomplish your biggest goals?

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iTunes is a great place to find motivational podcasts that you can easily subscribe to and listen to daily. Simply search for podcasts in personal development, success, motivation, inspiration, etc.

Top 3 Ways To Flip the Script on Haters

Have you ever had someone think your dream was too big? Have you ever had someone laugh at your dreams? Try to make you feel stupid for thinking your dream was possible? Every single person who achieves success faces haters. The worst is when it is your so-called friends or someone in authority like a teacher or boss.

There have been many for me, but the first one I remember was a fourth grade teacher. This teacher was old, bitter, and just flat out mean. You know the one: the teacher who should never have been allowed to influence kids due to her bitterness. One day early in the school year, she asked me to read in front of the class. For some reason, I got stuck on one word. I struggled for about 30 seconds trying to figure this word out. This teacher stood up at her desk in front of all my classmates and said, “Jimmy, I was told you were one of the smart kids, but you’re one of the worst readers I have ever had in my classroom. Sit down and let one of the good readers finish this book.”

I don’t think I have to tell you what this did to my fourth grade self-confidence. For the next four days, I got sick every day right at the time when our class had reading. On the fourth day in a row, when my Mom pulled up to the school to check me out, she asked me what was really wrong. Moms always know when something isn’t right.  I told her the situation, and she handled it a lot better than I believe I would if this happened to one of my children. She and I met with two other teachers that she knew. One was a former teacher of mine and one was the teacher I ended up having my fifth grade year. Both of these teachers were very supportive. They both tutored me after school for the rest of that year. I can’t thank Miss Faye Wilkerson and Mrs. Barbara Wilkerson enough for helping me regain my confidence in reading. Fourth grade was a turning point for me. Although it was difficult at times in that class, I chose to get better rather than to get bitter.

The next year, the March of Dimes had a statewide reading contest that lasted a month. The grand prize was a black-and-white TV (totally just dated myself). I took the entry form home to my Mom and asked her if I could have a TV in my room if I won this contest. She quickly said if I won the statewide reading contest that I could have the TV. After all, how could I win a statewide reading contest when just the year before I was told I was one of the worst readers my teacher had ever taught?

I read sixty six books in thirty days. I broke the record for the most books read in this statewide contest. They held a special school-wide program and a man from The March of Dimes came to present me with the TV in front of the entire school. As I glanced out over the audience, my eyes met my fourth grade teacher and without saying a word, I knew I would not have been standing there at that moment without her.

The following are 3 ways to flip the script on haters.

#1: Turn Your Haters into Motivators

Frank Sinatra said, “The best revenge is massive success.” Use their negativity to feed your burning desire to see your dream become a reality. When times get tough and you want to quit, think of the haters. Do you want to give them the satisfaction of saying I told you so? Or, do you want the satisfaction of proving them wrong?

Whatever your dream might be, don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t achieve it. Understand that most haters are just bitter. Haters don’t really hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of who they wish to be. Visualize your dreams and don’t let anyone slow you down from chasing them.

#2: Don’t Pay Attention to the Vocal Minority

The vocal minority is defined by the Urban Dictionary as the small group of individuals that frequently and strongly voice their opinions, contrasting with the silent majority that makes up most of the population base, but rarely give their opinions.

Usually a hater is a vocal minority. If you noticed in my example, I had two teachers that spent time after their work tutoring me. Looking back, there would have been many more if I had wanted them.

The best way to insulate yourself from the vocal minority is to surround yourself with positive and uplifting people. They are there. You just have to search for them. If you don’t know any then study biographies of people who have already achieved your dream. When you are ready for them, they will appear.

#3: Stay Classy Dream Chaser

Stay above the fray. If you try to argue with your haters then you are giving them what they want. They want to distract you from your dream. They want you to focus on them instead of on your dream. They want to bring you down to their level. They want to infect you with their bitterness. Do not give them what they want.  Your dream is too important to spend time arguing with a fool. Instead focus on your dream and work harder than ever. By doing this you move toward your dream instead of away from it. No one who takes the high road ever looks bad.  In the words of Ron Burgundy, “Stay Classy.”

Be Encouraged

Losers don’t have to worry about haters. If you have them then be encouraged. They usually show up right before big things happen. Get excited. Your dream is closer than you think.

Below in the comments, share your stories of overcoming haters. What do you do to turn your haters into motivators?

About the Author

jimmyburgess_squareThis is a guest post by Jimmy Burgess. He was a millionaire by 35, lost it all and ended up in bankruptcy. He bounced back quickly financially, but it was the bounce back that happened physically, relationally and spiritually that led him to write the book What Just Happened? How To Bounce Back In Life So You Can Do More, Have More, and Be More. You can connect with Jimmy on Twitter.

What Are You Doing With Your Life? #PODCAST

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Are you wasting your life away, afraid of success or afraid of failure? Get up and get going! Life doesn’t last forever! What’s your vision? What do you want to do with your life? What do you want to do this year? In this quick 5 minute podcast, I give you the motivation to turn your biggest dreams into reality. Start today!

Listen now by clicking the “play” button or read the transcript below.

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Thanks for listening. I’d love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

What’s your biggest goal for this year?

Yep, that’s a big one. Please leave a comment below letting me know your biggest goal this year and the steps you’re going to take to make it happen. Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read every single one!

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Podcast Transcript:

What are you doing with your life?

How much time do you have here?

Are you wasting your life, and everything you could be doing?

If so, why?

Because you’re afraid?

What are you afraid of?

Are you afraid of success?

Are you afraid of failure?

Are you afraid it’s just not going to work out for you?

Why would you think it’s not going to work out for you?

Did you know that the only people who accomplish things in this life are those who believe they can.

Even you! For the things you have accomplished, the only reason you were able to do that was because you believed in yourself.

So why can’t you believe in yourself about your biggest goals and dreams?

There is actually so little different about you compared to anyone else who has accomplished great things!

The only thing that may be different about them is they had a mindset that allowed them to try the things they set their mind to. When they came up with an idea, they just did it. If there was an obstacle, they didn’t say, “Oh well, I guess I can’t do that. I guess I’ll just have to throw in the towel.”

No! They figured out a way to get over that obstacle. They were resourceful. They took the resources they had and turned it into something that they wanted it to become.

Everything is changeable. Your life, your circumstances. You can exchange money for things, time for money, time for accomplishments. You can take things in this world and turn them into a masterpiece. Something you desire to come true.

There was once a painter who lived in Philadelphia. His passion was to paint grand paintings. And he was very good. He had a natural talent. But he didn’t make much money. One day he couldn’t afford to buy his canvas and paints. He took a walk, pondering how he was going to be able to paint this idea he had in his head. He envisioned a woman, holding her newborn child, big heavy clouds hovering over them, then splitting just enough for rays of sunlight to shine down on them. The vividness he had in his mind, he just couldn’t contain it. He just had to get this out with his paintbrush.

Well, as he was walking down the alley, there was lots of noise disturbing his thoughts. Hammering, drills, all kinds of power tools. They were renovating one of the houses on the alley. He was looking up watching what they had done to the house and he remembered how bad that house looked before. He admired their work. The house was really coming along.

Well, he was about to walk away when just to the side he looked down and there was a giant piece of plywood leaning against a dumpster. The construction workers were throwing it away. He walked up to it to examine it. It was in good condition, a piece cut off one end, but besides that it was pretty much how you would get it if you hopped over to home depot to pick up some plywood for yourself.

For some reason he decided to look inside the dumpster. He didn’t know why. He just felt the urge to see what else was inside. To his surprise there was actually a can of paint. It was home paint that you’d use to paint your walls, but he didn’t care. He lifted the can of paint out of the dumpster and it felt like it was about half full still! The paint running down the side of the can was a medium shade of gray.

A light bulb went off in his head. He ran back home, grabbed a towel, some rope, and his keys, and drove his car back to the dumpster. The man put the towel down on top of his car, flung the plywood up there, tied some rope around it to secure it to his car, and placed that half full can of paint in his trunk.

He went home and, with the help of the little bit of white and black paint he still had left, he created a grayscale version of his vision, the woman, holding her baby, the clouds parting, the rays of sun shining down on them. He sold that painting on the plywood for $4,000. Who says you need canvas to paint a masterpiece?

After his experience of finding the plywood and paint, he realized that there was a need that could be branched between contractors and penniless painters. Contractors were just getting rid of these spare pieces of plywood, going straight to the dump, and half full cans of paint of various colors. And there were many artists out there who were struggling to earn enough to buy more supplies.

He started an organization where construction workers could donate their plywood, partly used paint cans, and paint brushes, and artists could come pick up whatever they needed. It became a successful non-profit which art admirers from everywhere donated lots of money to every year.

Eventually, people also began to donate canvases of every size, and acrylic and oil paints of every color, all the various shapes, sizes, and styles of brushes. All the artists, whose passion it was to paint, had their needs finally fulfilled. Because of this one man with one grand vision.

What’s your vision? It doesn’t have to be grand. What do you want to do with your life? What do you want to do this year? Find a way to do it. There is a way, you just have to find it. Don’t look at those obstacles and give up. Everyone has obstacles. The people who succeed are the ones who look at their obstacles and think of a way to overcome them.

Take action now.

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Taking Personal Responsibility Empowers You to Accomplish Your Goals

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Today I want to talk to you about personal responsibility.

There was a man named Peter. He grew up in a poor family, so he knew he had to work hard and be smart in order to get out of the struggle and not repeat his parents’ fate. He got good grades in school and even studied other trades and business.

Eventually he came to run a successful catering business. He tried to put a lot of his profits back into the business in marketing and advertising, and expanding his business, hiring more employees, giving his employees top-notch benefits and bonuses each year.

But with all the hard work he put into his business, he still earned a large sum every year, so obviously his taxes were high. A portion of Peter’s income that he slaved away to create, was given to the government to use as they see fit. Some of which went to people on welfare.

Welfare in the US was created during the Great Depression in 1935 when 20% of the US population was still unemployed.

And so began the dependence on government aid. And that’s exactly what it’s become.

I say all of this coming from a family of poverty on welfare. So before you start swinging your hammer at me, know that I understand.

George Bernard Shaw, an Irish playwright and co-founder of the London School of Economics said that “A government that robs Peter to pay Paul can always depend on the support of Paul.”

Ever hear that quote?

I’m not saying that people shouldn’t give their fair share. If you have more, then you have more to give.

What I am saying is that government aid not only helps struggling families in their times of need, it also enables a struggling family to continue to be in a lifelong time of need. They know deep down that they will always have the government to lean on if they can’t get ahead, so then they don’t get ahead. Not because they really don’t want to, but because getting ahead really does take a lot of hard work and time. It takes a lot of patience and sacrifice. It’s not easy, so most people think they can’t do it, and not only that, most people know they don’t have to.

So since it’s really hard to do, people think they can’t or won’t be able to, and because they really don’t have to because there is always the government to rely on, they just won’t do it.

Living in poverty has become the status quo for them. They are used to it. It actually becomes comfortable. It seems ironic that living through a constant financial struggle can become comfortable, but it does. Just like the woman who stays in the abusive relationship. It’s familiar.

It’s harmful, but it’s familiar.

What harmful things do you keep doing simply because it’s familiar?

People like to complain about their lives, but then don’t take responsibility. Everyone really has the same hope at succeeding in life, whether that be financially, relationally, physically, or spiritually. But successful people make different choices and take different actions, even in the little things.

What do you want to become successful in? What does success mean to you? Are you going to do what it takes to get there? Are you going to buckle down and get the hard work done? Are you willing to make sacrifices in order to live a better more fulfilling life?

Then stop living the status quo. Start believing in yourself, and start completing the steps it takes to get where you want to be in life.

Do you want to lose 20 pounds? Do you want to have a thriving marriage full of passion? Do you want to be a millionaire? Do you want to start a non-profit organization to help those less fortunate?

What do you want to do with your life?

If you keep blaming your circumstances, your past, your finances, and other people in your life on your current situation, you will never get what you really want out of life.

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We are not in control of everything, but everything you have control over, it’s time to take control of it.

Start taking personal responsibility for where you are in life right now, and make the changes necessary to get what you want out of life. What habits can you change right now, even just a little bit, to get closer to your goals?

Do it, starting today.

Now I want to hear from you. In a comment below, please answer this question: What is one habit that you are going to try to change, stop, or create, in order to move forward toward a goal you have?

I’m excited to see your response and what you’re planning on working on. I’d like to help you get there and keep you accountable to your own desires. So write your comment below!