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How Our Beliefs Control Our Long Term Life Circumstances


As a child, we’re all taught different things. Some of the things we’re taught, are taught to us purposefully. Our parents telling us things they want us to know, or want us to know how to do.

Other things we’re taught by watching others, or hearing what others say, to us, or to others.

We all form a bunch of beliefs. Some of them are true, and some of them are untrue. But whether they are true or not, we believe them to be true.

We internalize a ton of things as children growing up. And then we also internalize even more things as adults. But our early formative years really shaped us.

As adults we live our lives a certain way. In our minds, we’re all doing the best we can. It’s all we know.

Until we learn more.

Until we learn the truth.

The truth that we are not what people say we are.

We don’t have to be what people told us we’d become.

We can be whatever we want to be.

We don’t have to hold on to any false beliefs any longer.

Somehow you have gotten to where you are in life. You’ve had successes and failures. And failures happen to everyone (even those who don’t have any false beliefs about themselves). But do you want to go farther? Is there something else you want to do with your life. Do you want to reach higher?

What’s been holding you back?

True and false beliefs about yourself have caused you to go in whatever direction you’ve decided to take. Most of your decisions probably didn’t even feel like decisions. You might even feel like life has just happened to you.

But it’s not true.

I’m not saying that some things don’t just happen to us. Things do happen to us. But for the most part, how you have gotten to where you are is a result of what you believe and the choices you’ve made because of those beliefs. That’s how our beliefs control our long term life circumstances.

But you have the power to change that at any time.

Whether you are struggling a lot in life and need a drastic change, or just want to improve in some areas, you can do it. You have it inside of you. You just have to believe it.

You may not feel you have the resources available to you to be able to be whatever you want to be. And if that’s the case, then it’s time to find or build up those resources. Create it. It’s time to become resourceful.

Resourcefulness is not the ability to take useful things and use them as they’re supposed to. Resourcefulness is the ability to take whatever it is you have and create something useful out of it, whether it was intended for that or not.

I’ve created things out of what has seemed like thin air, simply because I believed in myself. I’m not perfect, but when I believe in myself, I do what it takes. And when I’m down on myself, that’s when I fail to even take action.

So rather than get down on yourself, telling yourself those lies that you’ve told yourself all your life, that others have told you all your life, get inspired. Realize that if you just do A, B, and C, that this, this, and this can happen for you. And it’s not easy, but it is definitely possible. And if it’s possible, you can do it. And it’s up to you. You have to take action. Action on your part is the only thing that will make it happen for you. No one will do it for you.

Do you need support? You can get the help of those in your life to help get you where you need to go. Don’t have anyone supportive in your life, then get out there and find supportive people and build those relationships.

Do you need more money? You get a job that earns you more money, or you learn how to live on less (something that’s definitely possible for most of us!).

Do you need more time? You wake up earlier, stay up later, or change your priorities so you’re spending less time on less important things, and can then spend more time on more important things.

Whatever it is, you have the ability to make it happen. Whatever you want to do in life, you can do. We all have obstacles, and some of us have more obstacles than others, but you have the ability to move past the things that are in your way.

Don’t stand in your own way.

Untrue beliefs about yourself, telling you you’re not good enough, that you’ll never be able to do this or that. That is what’s holding you back more than anything.

Write down your goal.

Then write down why you think you can’t make it happen.

Then write down ways you can jump those hurdles.

You have the ability. You just have to believe in yourself, and then do the steps it takes.

You can do anything.

What do you want to do?

Leave a comment. I want to hear what you want to do with your life. What do you want to be? Who do you want to be? I’m excited to hear about your goals.

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