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The Force That Holds Us Back – And How to Overcome It

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Have you ever wondered what the difference is between someone who has what many would call a successful life versus someone who seems to be constantly struggling? I’ve wondered this many times myself. What factors really determine how far a person goes in life? After all don’t we all deserve to have a life filled with abundance? After doing a lot of reading, meeting different people from all walks of life, listening to audios, and experiencing this firsthand myself I have come to a realization what that factor is for many. Fear.

Fear is simply an illusion trying to hold us back from becoming what we really are meant to be. It is that belittling feeling where you question your capability. You start to wonder can I really do this? This doesn’t seem like the path for me. Someone must have made a mistake. Well, I am here to tell you that is all wrong. I truly believe that we are given in life not what we may ask for but what is meant for us.

Have you ever noticed how some opportunities that come to us are the rarest times but turn out to be a blessing or a life changing experience? Unfortunately sometimes Fear gets the best of us. And why does it, you may ask? What are we actually afraid of…?

Many things really, it is human nature to look at the negative things before you even notice the good. We are afraid to fail, to let others down, to embarrass ourselves, to try and be disappointed by not getting what we originally desired and dreamed for. But what if we could simply decide not to let Fear have control over us. We can! And yes it is that simple as just Deciding. Deciding that the desire to achieve something is far more greater than your fear wanting to control you.

You must condition yourself to break away from the limiting belief which is fear. That is really what Fear is; a belief. A belief that something atrocious will happen if you go on to take particular actions towards something. You must ask yourself what is it that I am afraid of? Why am I so afraid of this? What is the worst thing that will come from this?

Don’t let Fear, a mere illusion hold you back from fulfilling your ultimate destiny. Visualize what will be on the other side when you overcome that fear. The rewards will be immeasurable!

So next time you are to do a speech in front of hundreds, take on a new position at work, or are faced with a challenge of any kind, and that sensation of fear overcomes you, you know what you need to do. Take charge! Take control! And the world will open up to YOU.

About the Author

martha_villegasMartha Villegas fell in love with the world of personal development a few years back. As a current college student she knows the world is filled with immeasurable possibilities. Originally looking to gain a career in the fashion industry she now knows what her true calling is. She has developed a passion to share the knowledge she has learned with others. She believes that each person has so much potential inside and wants to help others discover theirs. Martha’s goal is to become a personal coach to empower individuals and the younger generation to live a life of abundance. Follow Martha on Twitter.

One Cool Trick to Increase Your Positivity and Motivation #PODCAST

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Listening to motivational speakers on a daily basis increases your positivity, motivation, and your belief in yourself.

Listen now to see how spending just a bit of time each day listening to your favorite motivational speakers can improve your life tremendously:

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

Do you listen to motivational speakers on a regular basis? How has that helped improve your life?

Do you agree that listening to motivational speakers gets you going and energizes you to accomplish your biggest goals?

Leave a comment at the bottom of this post and let me know your thoughts!

Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read each and every one! Thanks for contributing to the discussion :)

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody it’s Lisha Yost, founder of UpGusto Personal Development. And today I wanted to talk to you a little bit about positivity and remaining positive, and how much of a difference that can make in your life.

I have found that the more I listen to motivational speakers every day, I could just turn on some type of audio recording, listen to that while I do my work. Do that about a half an hour a day, or just all day long, I just find that I enjoy my day so much more, and I even enjoy mundane tasks that I wouldn’t normally like to do.

So I totally recommend just spending some time each day listening to a motivational speaker, or watching a motivational video, or reading some motivational materials, because the funny thing is humans need motivation in order to get anything done, and we need energy to get anything done. And motivation creates energy.

So if you listen to motivational speakers talking into your brain, their positivity, you’ll find that you’ll end up getting more done, you’ll enjoy your day that much more, and you even enjoy the things you don’t like to do.

You may have a goal in life that you want to accomplish and everything else gets in the way and you don’t end up spending any time on moving forward in life and accomplishing the goals you want to accomplish, and turning your dreams into reality. Well, motivational videos, and audio, and reading motivational articles, it gets you that much more likely to do something on a daily basis that will get you to where you want to be in life.

It’s actually scientifically proven that positive people tend to be more successful, and positive people get more done, and positive people make a bigger difference in the world. So, if you’re positive, you’re going to have a better life, the people around you are going to have a better life, and you’re going to make the world a better place. That’s 3 reasons why you should listen to motivational speakers on a daily basis, so that, on a daily basis, you are doing something to get ahead, to accomplish your goals, to become a better person, and to make the world a better place.

Start searching for motivational speakers that really speak to you, that really motivate you, to get you going, and to energize you so that you get stuff done, and you get stuff done that you actually want to do that will move you forward and ahead, and toward where you actually want to be in life.

I know for me, listening to motivational speakers really helps me on a daily basis, and it has made me a much more positive person. And it just amazes me how much more positive I am when I’m just hearing other positive people talking.
You can actually become more positive too. When you’re a negative person, you don’t think you want to be more positive, but when you become more positive, you realize how much better your life is, no matter what you’re circumstances are.

So I encourage you to listen to some motivational speakers every single day.

Get motivated, get energize, get stuff done, get ahead, move forward, make a difference, and I’ll see you next time.

Do you agree that listening to motivational speakers gets you going and energizes you to accomplish your biggest goals?

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iTunes is a great place to find motivational podcasts that you can easily subscribe to and listen to daily. Simply search for podcasts in personal development, success, motivation, inspiration, etc.

Top 3 Ways To Flip the Script on Haters

Have you ever had someone think your dream was too big? Have you ever had someone laugh at your dreams? Try to make you feel stupid for thinking your dream was possible? Every single person who achieves success faces haters. The worst is when it is your so-called friends or someone in authority like a teacher or boss.

There have been many for me, but the first one I remember was a fourth grade teacher. This teacher was old, bitter, and just flat out mean. You know the one: the teacher who should never have been allowed to influence kids due to her bitterness. One day early in the school year, she asked me to read in front of the class. For some reason, I got stuck on one word. I struggled for about 30 seconds trying to figure this word out. This teacher stood up at her desk in front of all my classmates and said, “Jimmy, I was told you were one of the smart kids, but you’re one of the worst readers I have ever had in my classroom. Sit down and let one of the good readers finish this book.”

I don’t think I have to tell you what this did to my fourth grade self-confidence. For the next four days, I got sick every day right at the time when our class had reading. On the fourth day in a row, when my Mom pulled up to the school to check me out, she asked me what was really wrong. Moms always know when something isn’t right.  I told her the situation, and she handled it a lot better than I believe I would if this happened to one of my children. She and I met with two other teachers that she knew. One was a former teacher of mine and one was the teacher I ended up having my fifth grade year. Both of these teachers were very supportive. They both tutored me after school for the rest of that year. I can’t thank Miss Faye Wilkerson and Mrs. Barbara Wilkerson enough for helping me regain my confidence in reading. Fourth grade was a turning point for me. Although it was difficult at times in that class, I chose to get better rather than to get bitter.

The next year, the March of Dimes had a statewide reading contest that lasted a month. The grand prize was a black-and-white TV (totally just dated myself). I took the entry form home to my Mom and asked her if I could have a TV in my room if I won this contest. She quickly said if I won the statewide reading contest that I could have the TV. After all, how could I win a statewide reading contest when just the year before I was told I was one of the worst readers my teacher had ever taught?

I read sixty six books in thirty days. I broke the record for the most books read in this statewide contest. They held a special school-wide program and a man from The March of Dimes came to present me with the TV in front of the entire school. As I glanced out over the audience, my eyes met my fourth grade teacher and without saying a word, I knew I would not have been standing there at that moment without her.

The following are 3 ways to flip the script on haters.

#1: Turn Your Haters into Motivators

Frank Sinatra said, “The best revenge is massive success.” Use their negativity to feed your burning desire to see your dream become a reality. When times get tough and you want to quit, think of the haters. Do you want to give them the satisfaction of saying I told you so? Or, do you want the satisfaction of proving them wrong?

Whatever your dream might be, don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t achieve it. Understand that most haters are just bitter. Haters don’t really hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of who they wish to be. Visualize your dreams and don’t let anyone slow you down from chasing them.

#2: Don’t Pay Attention to the Vocal Minority

The vocal minority is defined by the Urban Dictionary as the small group of individuals that frequently and strongly voice their opinions, contrasting with the silent majority that makes up most of the population base, but rarely give their opinions.

Usually a hater is a vocal minority. If you noticed in my example, I had two teachers that spent time after their work tutoring me. Looking back, there would have been many more if I had wanted them.

The best way to insulate yourself from the vocal minority is to surround yourself with positive and uplifting people. They are there. You just have to search for them. If you don’t know any then study biographies of people who have already achieved your dream. When you are ready for them, they will appear.

#3: Stay Classy Dream Chaser

Stay above the fray. If you try to argue with your haters then you are giving them what they want. They want to distract you from your dream. They want you to focus on them instead of on your dream. They want to bring you down to their level. They want to infect you with their bitterness. Do not give them what they want.  Your dream is too important to spend time arguing with a fool. Instead focus on your dream and work harder than ever. By doing this you move toward your dream instead of away from it. No one who takes the high road ever looks bad.  In the words of Ron Burgundy, “Stay Classy.”

Be Encouraged

Losers don’t have to worry about haters. If you have them then be encouraged. They usually show up right before big things happen. Get excited. Your dream is closer than you think.

Below in the comments, share your stories of overcoming haters. What do you do to turn your haters into motivators?

About the Author

jimmyburgess_squareThis is a guest post by Jimmy Burgess. He was a millionaire by 35, lost it all and ended up in bankruptcy. He bounced back quickly financially, but it was the bounce back that happened physically, relationally and spiritually that led him to write the book What Just Happened? How To Bounce Back In Life So You Can Do More, Have More, and Be More. You can connect with Jimmy on Twitter.

Thoughts from Robert Brault – Round Up The Usual Subjects – Part One

Many of you have by now heard of Robert Brault. He’s had his written works published in various places such as the Reader’s Digest since 1961. In 2009, he started his blog A Robert Brault Reader, in which he simply published his little thoughts of wisdom, much of which has been quoted and tweeted millions of times since.

Robert and I had been in communication via email when he was losing his domain, so I was trying to help him out with being able to keep all his records from his blog. It all turned out okay (even without my help) and he told me that he’d soon be coming out with a book of thoughts. Well, about a month later, Robert emailed me to tell me that “Round Up the Usual Subjects” had been published and was available for purchase, so I snatched up an inscribed copy right away.

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So far, I am in love with it. So I wanted to share my favorite quotes from the first section on Action. Take a moment to meditate on each one.

“Never act until you have clearly answered the question, ‘What happens if I do nothing?'”
– Robert Brault

“No matter what you hear said about yourself, do what you would do if you hadn’t heard it”
– Robert Brault

“Life is a series of tasks that absolutely must get done before they don’t matter any more.”
– Robert Brault

I’m simply going to leave you with that and allow you to ponder those thoughts, just as Robert does in his book.

I will most likely be inspired to share my favorite quotes again whenever I sit down and read parts of his book, so that’s why I named this post Part One.

Click here if you’d like to order the book yourself. I highly recommend it! I think it would also be a great gift.

What Are You Doing With Your Life? #PODCAST

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Are you wasting your life away, afraid of success or afraid of failure? Get up and get going! Life doesn’t last forever! What’s your vision? What do you want to do with your life? What do you want to do this year? In this quick 5 minute podcast, I give you the motivation to turn your biggest dreams into reality. Start today!

Listen now by clicking the “play” button or read the transcript below.

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Thanks for listening. I’d love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

What’s your biggest goal for this year?

Yep, that’s a big one. Please leave a comment below letting me know your biggest goal this year and the steps you’re going to take to make it happen. Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read every single one!

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Podcast Transcript:

What are you doing with your life?

How much time do you have here?

Are you wasting your life, and everything you could be doing?

If so, why?

Because you’re afraid?

What are you afraid of?

Are you afraid of success?

Are you afraid of failure?

Are you afraid it’s just not going to work out for you?

Why would you think it’s not going to work out for you?

Did you know that the only people who accomplish things in this life are those who believe they can.

Even you! For the things you have accomplished, the only reason you were able to do that was because you believed in yourself.

So why can’t you believe in yourself about your biggest goals and dreams?

There is actually so little different about you compared to anyone else who has accomplished great things!

The only thing that may be different about them is they had a mindset that allowed them to try the things they set their mind to. When they came up with an idea, they just did it. If there was an obstacle, they didn’t say, “Oh well, I guess I can’t do that. I guess I’ll just have to throw in the towel.”

No! They figured out a way to get over that obstacle. They were resourceful. They took the resources they had and turned it into something that they wanted it to become.

Everything is changeable. Your life, your circumstances. You can exchange money for things, time for money, time for accomplishments. You can take things in this world and turn them into a masterpiece. Something you desire to come true.

There was once a painter who lived in Philadelphia. His passion was to paint grand paintings. And he was very good. He had a natural talent. But he didn’t make much money. One day he couldn’t afford to buy his canvas and paints. He took a walk, pondering how he was going to be able to paint this idea he had in his head. He envisioned a woman, holding her newborn child, big heavy clouds hovering over them, then splitting just enough for rays of sunlight to shine down on them. The vividness he had in his mind, he just couldn’t contain it. He just had to get this out with his paintbrush.

Well, as he was walking down the alley, there was lots of noise disturbing his thoughts. Hammering, drills, all kinds of power tools. They were renovating one of the houses on the alley. He was looking up watching what they had done to the house and he remembered how bad that house looked before. He admired their work. The house was really coming along.

Well, he was about to walk away when just to the side he looked down and there was a giant piece of plywood leaning against a dumpster. The construction workers were throwing it away. He walked up to it to examine it. It was in good condition, a piece cut off one end, but besides that it was pretty much how you would get it if you hopped over to home depot to pick up some plywood for yourself.

For some reason he decided to look inside the dumpster. He didn’t know why. He just felt the urge to see what else was inside. To his surprise there was actually a can of paint. It was home paint that you’d use to paint your walls, but he didn’t care. He lifted the can of paint out of the dumpster and it felt like it was about half full still! The paint running down the side of the can was a medium shade of gray.

A light bulb went off in his head. He ran back home, grabbed a towel, some rope, and his keys, and drove his car back to the dumpster. The man put the towel down on top of his car, flung the plywood up there, tied some rope around it to secure it to his car, and placed that half full can of paint in his trunk.

He went home and, with the help of the little bit of white and black paint he still had left, he created a grayscale version of his vision, the woman, holding her baby, the clouds parting, the rays of sun shining down on them. He sold that painting on the plywood for $4,000. Who says you need canvas to paint a masterpiece?

After his experience of finding the plywood and paint, he realized that there was a need that could be branched between contractors and penniless painters. Contractors were just getting rid of these spare pieces of plywood, going straight to the dump, and half full cans of paint of various colors. And there were many artists out there who were struggling to earn enough to buy more supplies.

He started an organization where construction workers could donate their plywood, partly used paint cans, and paint brushes, and artists could come pick up whatever they needed. It became a successful non-profit which art admirers from everywhere donated lots of money to every year.

Eventually, people also began to donate canvases of every size, and acrylic and oil paints of every color, all the various shapes, sizes, and styles of brushes. All the artists, whose passion it was to paint, had their needs finally fulfilled. Because of this one man with one grand vision.

What’s your vision? It doesn’t have to be grand. What do you want to do with your life? What do you want to do this year? Find a way to do it. There is a way, you just have to find it. Don’t look at those obstacles and give up. Everyone has obstacles. The people who succeed are the ones who look at their obstacles and think of a way to overcome them.

Take action now.

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How to Let Go of Your Pain and Take Hold of Your Life

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“Forgiveness is the final form of love.”
– Reinhold Niebuhr

►Have you been holding on to the pain and burden of a terrible childhood, or a traumatic event?
►Getting through your everyday life is like walking through a river of mud.
►Each step is an effort.
►Each step makes you feel more miserable and more drained.
►It takes a lot of energy to stay angry and miserable.
►What if you could feel better?
►What if you could look down on all that anger and misery from a mountaintop, that you climbed!
►You left all the negativity behind.
►You are a fresher and lighter person.

Let me tell you my story of forgiveness.

Over many years, my brother and I were dragged through a very difficult childhood. During the time all I could do was cope with my tumultuous environment. I developed a hard outer shell, grew quiet as a field mouse, and learned a severe form of independence.

Keeping people at arm’s length

I learned that everything I did or said resulted in a painful reaction for me. I just stopped sharing my thoughts and opinions. I was a very quiet and shy kid, got good grades, and faded nicely into the woodwork. Though there were people to whom I felt very close, I couldn’t express it. I didn’t know how to express love. My mom’s hugs were minimal, and she didn’t say she loved me until I was well into adulthood.

My Shell Will Not Crack

Through middle and high school, I found some meaningful friends who were mostly band geeks like me. I was known as a very nice and quiet girl. I never started trouble, respected authority and stayed away from attention as much as possible. I kept up my grades and a good reputation until my sophomore year of high school. I met an older guy, made a series of terrible decisions and made a mess of my life. That is a story for another day.

Acceptance

In the atmosphere of forgiveness, you have to acknowledge that what you see as a person’s limitations are actually the full extent of what he or she is capable. For a long time after I was out on my own, my mom and I talked once every couple of months on the phone and saw each other less. It hurt that I wasn’t able to have a mother-daughter relationship with her. We were more like acquaintances. Over time I accepted that was the most she could do. It made the pain go from a throbbing bruise to a light scratch.

How do you Forgive?

Forgiveness isn’t something that just happens. It requires the surrender of your own ego. You cannot be a stubborn sitting bull and expect to make progress. Much like with addiction recovery, the first step is admitting there is a problem.

With forgiveness, the first step is to understand that it’s not your fault. When you were abused, or otherwise victimized as a child, you had zero control. You had no way to alter your environment or change the people in it. Blaming yourself is not an option.

Putting a stop to blaming yourself alleviates some self-hate. When you stop hating yourself so much, for what was never your fault, your internal compass is free to point towards the source of your anger.

It is OK to be Angry

In fact, it is a necessary part of getting through the mud and funk of a traumatic experience to arrive on in green pasture of forgiveness. Though I absolutely advocate counseling, it isn’t for everyone. You still have to process your anger, though.

►Write down your thoughts
►At whom are you angry?
►What did he/she/they do to you?
►Be as specific as you need.
►How did those actions affect you?

I was Angry, too

Growing up my mom worked as a nurse. When I was in high school she earned her RN degree, and specialized in psychiatric nursing. The latter years of my high school experience were spent slowly spiraling down into a dark well of depression. I was accepted into a prestigious liberal arts college, attended one semester and dropped out.

All I wanted to do was sleep. Unhappiness was my constant companion. Even if given the chance, I would not have been able to express I felt depressed, hopeless and sad.

When I was finally diagnosed in 2005, I was so angry at my mom. Here she was a mental health professional, and I had textbook symptoms of clinical depression.

I was angry because she hadn’t seen me spinning out of control, and sad because maybe she had, and just didn’t care.

Pursuing Wellness

I could not work out my feelings alone. I attended counseling quite often for about two years. With help I was able to understand my mom better, and recognize that she was depressed, too.

Between her own feelings, dancing and tip-toeing around my stepfather’s antics, she wasn’t able to clearly see the world around her.

Compassion

Most people have good intentions. The road to forgiveness becomes less rocky when you realize the person who hurt you didn’t mean to.

About the Author

Jayme Lang lives in Ohio with her husband, two boys, three dogs and five cats. She is an aspiring freelance writer, and can be found on Twitter @pawprint76, and reached at jaymelang.2003@gmail.com.

Out of Poverty and Into Success #PODCAST

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People in poverty need to use their resourcefulness to become independent and free. Believe in yourself, make something of yourself, build something–even if it’s out of nothing. Anyone can do it! Yes, even you! Of Course You!

Listen to my quick 5 minute podcast which will inspire you to get off your butt and into action that will lead you straight to success! Whether you really are struggling financially, or just need a little motivation boost, that’s what I’m here for!

But before you listen, just know that I say all of this coming from a family of poverty and welfare, so I know how difficult it is. But just because something is difficult does not mean that it is impossible. Get to work and make it happen, starting today! If I can break the chain of poverty that has stricken my family, you can too!
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Podcast Transcript:

“I’m driving in my car and I decided to make a podcast about how people like to complain about their life situation, and they want others to take responsibility for them. Poor people want to be taken care of by the government… They want rich people, if they have an extra car, “Why does that rich person have two expensive cars? They should sell one of their cars and [or] give one to me!”

Well what I think is that poor people need to get themselves out of the situation they’re in, and work on a way that they can create the income that they need themselves, and gain independence and freedom from that. You don’t just gain independence and freedom. You gain a sense of accomplishment and pride, and all that kind of stuff as well.

People shouldn’t be expecting anything from anyone else. People need to figure out how to get what they need on their own. Using their own resourcefulness, using their own abilities and talents and skills. Using their brain to gain more knowledge in order to do what it takes to create an income that you can survive off of on your own, instead of needing help from others all the time.

And I say all this coming from a family out of poverty and welfare. People have the abilities to move up, gain more talents, gain more skills, gain more education, and do the things it takes to move up in a career, or move up and out of employment and into their own business.

People can put their own skills and knowledge to use, and create a business out of thin air. And I speak from personal experience. Because I created UpGusto out of thin air, just like I created all my businesses out of thin air. So don’t think that you can’t do it, because you can. If I can do it, you can do it!

So rather than sitting around complaining about your life, and wondering why you’re so unlucky and why you’re not lucky… it’s not about luck. It’s about the actions you’re taking. People need to learn how to take the right actions to get to where you want to go. If you don’t do the right actions, you’re not going to get to the right place. If you do the right things, you’re going to get to the right place.

So it’s all about what you’re going to do, and the way you change what you do is by changing your mindset. You’re not going to do something differently until you start thinking differently. Until you start understanding the truth, and the truth of the matter is that everything that you do on a daily basis is what gets you to where you are.

So if you want to live a better life, it’s time to just simply start making it happen. Stop letting life happen to you. Stop playing the victim. And start being proactive about changing your life and making it better.

You have talents and skills that you can put to use to get what you need out of life and to live a more fulfilling life and to stop living a dependent life, a needy life, start living an independent, autonomous, free life, where you don’t feel tied down to what you’re dependent on.

So start figuring out what it is that you can do differently. Stop doing the same things and expecting different results. Start doing different things that will get you different results. And slowly but surely your life will turn around, and you’ll get what you need out of life if you actually put forth the effort, and stop complaining, and stop whining about how you’re unlucky, and start making your own luck, because that’s what it is.

People who are lucky, make their own luck. Tweet This!

So get out there, get working, and do what it takes, and you’ll succeed. You just have to be patient and consistent, and keep trying, and you’ll succeed.”

That photo above is my cat Tommy. This is his first debut on UpGusto. He has lots of great principles and wants to help people like you succeed, so you’ll most likely be seeing a lot of him around here.

Just like Tommy, I want any of you who haven’t yet reached your full potential to reach higher heights than ever before.

Thanks for reading. I’d love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

What are your thoughts on what holds people back from living to their full potential?

Please leave a comment below to let me know why you think people don’t reach their full potential. Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read every single one!

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