How to Remove False or Unhelpful Internalizations From Your Childhood #PODCAST

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What false or unhelpful beliefs are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

Listen up, because this episode is all about how we internalize things from our childhood which hold us back even in our adulthood, and what to do about it. This is a sort of part two from last week, which explained how to form new positive beliefs. This one is all about removing old negative beliefs.

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What internalizations from your childhood are you holding on to that are holding you back in life? What are you going to do about it?

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development. How’s it going out there today?

I was thinking the other day about this song that we learned in school as a kid.

I asked my husband if he ever heard that song and he said No, so I’m not sure if it was just my elementary school, but I got to thinking about this song and what it meant and it really started to upset me because… Well, I’ll sing the song to you so you get what I mean…

One person, starts off by pointing at someone and saying, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar.”

And then everyone repeats it, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

Then Tommy says “No I didn’t”

And everyone says “Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Tommy chooses someone to blame, for cookie thievery, “Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“No I didn’t”

“Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Sally says, “Johnny stole the cookie from the cookie jar…” and so on.

So the moral of the story is, if someone blames you for something, blame someone else?

Where is this cookie jar, anyway? That’s what I’d like to know. How come we never got any cookies?

Teacher stole the entire cookie jar! Oh yeah she did. That’s what really happened!

Or she never brought us a cookie jar in the first place!

But anyway getting back to seriousness, what this song teaches is pointing the finger, blaming, and lack of taking responsibility.

It’s a really weird song to sing in school for 6 year olds.

So some kids are going to internalize that song and think that everyone is going to blame them for things they didn’t do.

Some kids are going to internalize that song and think they can be mischievous because if they get caught they can just blame it on someone else.

Some kid should just stand up and go “well, I didn’t take any cookies, but I’ll tell you what, I’ll ask my mom if she can bake us a batch of chocolate chip cookies and I’ll bring them to class next time.”

Now that would have been awesome.

I wish I thought of that at the time, but I was way too shy and conservative not to “follow the rules of the game”.

So I went along with it and didn’t think about it until over 20 years later, how screwed up that song is to teach children.

You might say, “Oh who cares? It’s all in good fun. Stop being such a goodie goodie.”

But I say no, it’s more than that. And kids really are actually impressionable. And like I said, we all internalize things as children, and we all internalize different things.

Tony Robbins had a client named Rechaud, who stuttered for his entire life, as long as he could remember.

Tony asked him what his earliest memory was.

He said probably watching Rocky and Bullwinkle cartoon.

Tony said, “That’s interesting. Didn’t Bullwinkle stutter? Every time he was in trouble he would call out “R-R-Rocky”. And Rocky would come and save him and everything would be fine.”

Tony told him that kids typically internalize things because of some sort of trauma.

He asked him what else happened in his childhood? And Rechaud said that his parents used to fight a lot.

Tony said, “So you developed a stutter to get your parents’ attention, to stop the fighting, just like Bullwinkle stuttered when he was in trouble. So now there was a new problem for your parents to focus on, and they stopped fighting. So you’ve stuttered all your life because subconsciously that is what solves your problems. But now you’re a man, and stuttering has become your problem. You don’t have to be a two year old anymore. You can be a man. You can be a warrior. Does a warrior stutter? No!”

Anyway, long story short, Tony did a couple little exercises with Rechaud and he immediately stopped stuttering, for good!

And most people can’t believe this can be true. How can someone just rid themselves of stuttering when it’s been a problem for their entire life?

Well, it’s because when we internalize something, we don’t know why we do it, we just do.

When we realize why we do the things we do, when we realize where the problem stems from, we can finally move on from that problem.

It doesn’t mean you’re always gonna get cured from things once you realize why it’s all happening, but it is possible, and that’s what happened for Rechaud.

What are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

That’s something to think about and figure out.

So STEP ONE is to figure out what events from your childhood that you have internalized, are holding you back from achieving what success means to you.

And STEP TWO is to go through my 4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs, which you can find at upgusto.com/newbeliefs

Thanks for joining me. Share this with your friends and family, and I’ll be back next time with some more great stuff.

Thanks!

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4 Responses to 'How to Remove False or Unhelpful Internalizations From Your Childhood #PODCAST'

  1. Great stuff Lisha, I agree with all you say. and once you figure out what is internal, and how it drives you, really it seems you can’t use it anymore because, it seems so silly.

    Always look forward to enlightening information.

    Kymee

  2. I TOTALLY remember that song :-). I am thankful for the time I’ve had to trace the root of some of my behaviors and actions, and a lot definitely stem from childhood. Great post! I am sure many will find it helpful so they can move forward.

    • Lisha says:

      Really Sher? That’s cool that you remember it too… actually, I was thinking about that song a bit more (because it got stuck in my head) and how it really goes is “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar.” “Who me?” “Yes, you!” “Couldn’t be!” “Then who?” And then it goes on like that. But it still basically has the same meaning. Yes, definitely most of our beliefs stem from childhoos (or even early adulthood) I think we’re all constantly being brainwashed and bombarded by information that may or may not be absolutely true all the time, so it’s hard not to take it all on and internalize it and have it shape who we are and then what we do with our lives and on a daily basis, how we view others, how we view our circumstances, etc. We really gotta stay alert for what is really happening and only internalize full truths. Thanks for commenting, Sher :)