How Our Beliefs Control Our Long Term Life Circumstances


As a child, we’re all taught different things. Some of the things we’re taught, are taught to us purposefully. Our parents telling us things they want us to know, or want us to know how to do.

Other things we’re taught by watching others, or hearing what others say, to us, or to others.

We all form a bunch of beliefs. Some of them are true, and some of them are untrue. But whether they are true or not, we believe them to be true.

We internalize a ton of things as children growing up. And then we also internalize even more things as adults. But our early formative years really shaped us.

As adults we live our lives a certain way. In our minds, we’re all doing the best we can. It’s all we know.

Until we learn more.

Until we learn the truth.

The truth that we are not what people say we are.

We don’t have to be what people told us we’d become.

We can be whatever we want to be.

We don’t have to hold on to any false beliefs any longer.

Somehow you have gotten to where you are in life. You’ve had successes and failures. And failures happen to everyone (even those who don’t have any false beliefs about themselves). But do you want to go farther? Is there something else you want to do with your life. Do you want to reach higher?

What’s been holding you back?

True and false beliefs about yourself have caused you to go in whatever direction you’ve decided to take. Most of your decisions probably didn’t even feel like decisions. You might even feel like life has just happened to you.

But it’s not true.

I’m not saying that some things don’t just happen to us. Things do happen to us. But for the most part, how you have gotten to where you are is a result of what you believe and the choices you’ve made because of those beliefs. That’s how our beliefs control our long term life circumstances.

But you have the power to change that at any time.

Whether you are struggling a lot in life and need a drastic change, or just want to improve in some areas, you can do it. You have it inside of you. You just have to believe it.

You may not feel you have the resources available to you to be able to be whatever you want to be. And if that’s the case, then it’s time to find or build up those resources. Create it. It’s time to become resourceful.

Resourcefulness is not the ability to take useful things and use them as they’re supposed to. Resourcefulness is the ability to take whatever it is you have and create something useful out of it, whether it was intended for that or not.

I’ve created things out of what has seemed like thin air, simply because I believed in myself. I’m not perfect, but when I believe in myself, I do what it takes. And when I’m down on myself, that’s when I fail to even take action.

So rather than get down on yourself, telling yourself those lies that you’ve told yourself all your life, that others have told you all your life, get inspired. Realize that if you just do A, B, and C, that this, this, and this can happen for you. And it’s not easy, but it is definitely possible. And if it’s possible, you can do it. And it’s up to you. You have to take action. Action on your part is the only thing that will make it happen for you. No one will do it for you.

Do you need support? You can get the help of those in your life to help get you where you need to go. Don’t have anyone supportive in your life, then get out there and find supportive people and build those relationships.

Do you need more money? You get a job that earns you more money, or you learn how to live on less (something that’s definitely possible for most of us!).

Do you need more time? You wake up earlier, stay up later, or change your priorities so you’re spending less time on less important things, and can then spend more time on more important things.

Whatever it is, you have the ability to make it happen. Whatever you want to do in life, you can do. We all have obstacles, and some of us have more obstacles than others, but you have the ability to move past the things that are in your way.

Don’t stand in your own way.

Untrue beliefs about yourself, telling you you’re not good enough, that you’ll never be able to do this or that. That is what’s holding you back more than anything.

Write down your goal.

Then write down why you think you can’t make it happen.

Then write down ways you can jump those hurdles.

You have the ability. You just have to believe in yourself, and then do the steps it takes.

You can do anything.

What do you want to do?

Leave a comment. I want to hear what you want to do with your life. What do you want to be? Who do you want to be? I’m excited to hear about your goals.

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8 Responses to 'How Our Beliefs Control Our Long Term Life Circumstances'

  1. I think this is really useful advice for people who blame their current situation on their past and feel that they can’t change certain things in their life. The truth is really that we can take control and change anything if we really try hard.

    My goal is to be a life coach and i’m going to make it happen! Thanks for the article

    • Lisha says:

      Hey Rhydian, thanks for coming over. I agree that if you’re willing to work hard enough toward a goal and make the right decisions, then anything can happen for you. And belief in yourself is the first step. We have to believe that something is possible for us to even try. We need to get rid of those false self-limiting beliefs and replace them with positive rational thoughts :)

  2. Great and really motivating post! I am one of those “afraid to fail so won’t even try” types and daily I am trying to break out of that. Even though I realize that doesn’t make sense, it’s taking a lot of work to move pass my fears and that mindset into accomplishing goals. One major thing for me is my songwriting. It’s something I love and I am passionate about, but which I have a lot of trepidation in wholeheartedly pursuing.

    • Lisha says:

      I’m a songwriter too Sher, so I totally understand that feeling :) I haven’t written any songs in the last couple years. That has partly to do with being busy with other things, but also a belief that my song writing isn’t really “good enough” (which could very well be a false belief!) so it makes it seem like it’s not really worth it to pursue. But the main reason I’ve always written songs is just for my own personal enjoyment and expression. I love doing it. So I realized that if I feel like writing a song, if something is really coming out from me, then I’m just going to do it, when I feel inspired to do so, whether or not anyone ever hears that song doesn’t matter to me. And if it just so happens that I get a strong desire to make my songs known, then I’ll do that. We just have to do what we feel like doing when it comes to things like that. If it is a passion of yours, you should just do it when you feel passionate about it. Sometimes I just want to sit and play guitar and sing my old songs, or other people’s songs. It’s just fun :)

  3. David says:

    I think that we just listen to everything our parents say and accept it until we get older and learn to contradict what they say. As of now, I would say that half of out beliefs stem directly from or parents.

    • Lisha says:

      Hi David, I completely agree. Our parents, or any other people in our lives who talked to us, told us their beliefs (as if it was 100% factual and true), and those we watched or listened to (whether they were talking to us or someone else) we just internalize everyone else’s beliefs until we’re able to form our own opinions and realize that all those things we learned and internalized as a child, might not be 100% true.

  4. We always have the power within ourselves to reset and believe in something new. I believe that whatever we want to be, we can. Whatever we want to have, we can. And whatever we want to achieve, we can. It all lies in our mind and ultimately, we choose to believe what we think is true. Great post, Lisha. Enjoyed reading it. :)

    • Lisha says:

      Yes, I completely agree. We all have within us what we need to accomplish our greatest goals and desires. It’s all a matter of believing it to be true, and then doing what it takes to make it happen :)