In Memory of Personal Development Legend Scott Dinsmore

Life is crazy, and it’s short, but it can be shorter, and we just don’t know what’s ahead.

Today I found out that a personal development blogger, TEDx Talk speaker, and founder of Live Your Legend, Scott Dinsmore, was killed by some falling rocks while climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania on September 12, 2015. His wife Chelsea was with him, and she survived and made it back to the US.

Almost two years ago, I interviewed 10 personal development bloggers to ask them the “tough questions”, and Scott was one of them. One of the questions I asked was, “What personality traits best aid people in improving their lives?” This was Scott’s answer:

“Compassion, understanding, empathy and social awareness. These all come together to allow someone to genuinely connect, help and understand the people around them. Environment is everything. We have to surround ourselves with the people who inspire possibility. And in turn inspire that possibility in others. That’s when things start to get interesting. Do whatever you can to feel what another person’s feeling and to see a window into their world – then do all you can to leverage your talents, strengths and passions to help them in a meaningful way. The rest will take care of itself.” – Scott Dinsmore

Here is the blog post that the Live Your Legend community posted just after Scott’s death, in memory of him.

They have continued to make a few tributes as well, here and here.

Ironically, Scott’s last blog post on Live Your Legend (posted on Sept 4, 2015) was titled I’m Going Off the Grid: Therapy for an Addicted & Over-Connected World and it was about disconnecting (unplugging), spending more time with loved ones, and taking adventures.

He says, “But before I go off the grid, I’d like to explain why it’s so important (for all of us)”.

And I completely agree, which is why I try to spend most of my time in my present reality, here and now. This is why I don’t make a lot of phone calls (besides my phone anxiety of course), and why I don’t spend a lot of time emailing, texting, or facebooking, or on the computer at all. Even though my career takes place online, I’ve figured out a way to streamline my business so that I spend as little time on “work” as possible, so I have more time to live in the now and actually… well… live. Not live other people’s lives, or live the life other people think I should live, but live the life God made for me to live.

I even wrote a blog post about it, and it’s the reason why I stopped doing a lot of what I was doing just over a year ago. I even stopped working on and growing UpGusto because I wasn’t “walking my talk” the way I was currently living, how I was spending my time, and my priorities were all out of wack. I’m still not completely on track, but I’m much more aware of it now and try my best, and I’m getting better and better as time goes on.

And this blog post gives you my grown perspective just 5 months after initially simplifying my life.

Since then, my perspective has been growing even more. Some things I have realized is that acceptance is the answer to all my problems, and that taking personal responsibility for my part in everything that has happened and that I have allowed in my life is actually very empowering. Rather than being the victim or martyr that I have for some reason always enjoyed, I am at least partially or wholly responsible, and with that comes the realization that I actually have choices and the ability to make the changes in my life that are necessary for me to have serenity. Being the victim/martyr and holding onto resentments to excuse any of my behavior does not help me, it actually hinders me from living a full life, free of that weight.

Something I wrote a while back:

“We always feel that so many things are important, but only a few things actually are. I read a post on Myrko Thum’s blog where he explains that many times we put urgent things (things we think are important right now) above important things (things which are actually intrinsically important to us for life), which slows us down from accomplishing our goals and feeling fulfilled on a daily basis. If we were to try to lessen the urgent matters in our life and concentrate only on what’s important to us, then we would be able to accomplish our goals and feel happier overall.”

So I’d like to ask you, what’s really important to you? And my next question is, does the way you spend your time reflect that?

What’s important to me is my serenity and my relationship with God. Does the way I spend my time reflect that? Maybe not completely, but much much more so than two years ago, and I’m consciously working on aligning my priorities with my actions on a daily basis.

I struggle to live in the present moment, as I’m sure most of you do as well. So I’m working on that, being mindful, aware of my true surroundings, staying in the present, and staying in connection with God. Anxiety has gotten the best of me, and still does from time to time, and anxiety is the opposite of serenity, and the opposite of what God wants for us, so that is why I am putting so much effort into keeping my mind in the right place.

“And finally brothers (and sisters), whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8

Thanks to Scott Dinsmore for his contribution to the world, helping so many people live their legends out! And may his wife and family find peace during this time, remembering the precious times they were able to spend with him.

10 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned in the Last 5 Months

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Just two weeks after my “wake-up call” I took the above photo,
showcasing the highest score I ever got bowling, beating my husband for the first time!

I recently received an email from an UpGusto subscriber who lost his girlfriend who he intended to marry, and his job, all in one fell swoop. He was in despair about his life and in deep depression. I emailed him back, and I decided to share with you all what I wrote to him (plus a couple extra points) because my response is applicable to everyone’s life at one point or another, maybe even right this moment for some of you. I hope you can gain some insight to apply to your life today and on an ongoing basis to improve your own well being for the long term.

I’m sorry you have been going through such a difficult time. It is hard to understand why things may be happening as they are, but I truly believe everything happens for a reason. You never know what God has planned for you. It is always better than what we imagine for ourselves, and we tend to try to thwart God’s plans with our plans. That is what happened to me back in late June. I was living my life my way, and everything seemed to be going along just fine, when WHAM! Wake-up call. An extremely unfortunate event had taken place and when I came to realize what was going on it was like a huge slap in the face. A huge slap in my life! But 5 months later and I am actually already grateful for what has happened because I think it actually saved my life.

I was going down the wrong path. I kept doing the same things expecting different results, which is basically insanity. My life seemed fine, but since my wake-up call, I have realized so much of what I was doing was for the wrong reasons and a lot of what I was doing was completely unnecessary and it wasn’t resulting in a better life as I had been hoping for all along. I was stressing myself out to the max. I immediately simplified my life so I could survive the turmoil I was going through at the moment. And as soon as I did that, my life immediately became that much more manageable… basically easier to deal with on a daily basis. It’s funny how when you’re overly responsible, you tend to take on more responsibility than is actually necessary.

I tend to take care of others instead of myself, but since my wake-up call, I have been learning to take care of myself, and that has been an amazing thing. I am learning who I am and what I really want out of life, and I’m not displeasing God in the process like I thought I would be if I lived life this way. I thought taking care of myself was selfish, but really it’s self-care. There is a difference between selfishness, selflessness, and self-care, and I have realized that now. At the moment, my goal is self-care, and once I feel like my life is finally on track, I can work on being more selfless, but self-care is never selfish. When you take care of yourself, you are taking the burden off someone else to care for you. When you take care of your self, you are taking responsibility for your life, and you can learn to allow others to take responsibility for themselves too, and that is very freeing.

I don’t know why your relationship ended, what caused it, or what the current end of that relationship will bring you in the future (or in your present). I don’t know why you lost your job, or what God has in store for you instead. I do know that when these sorts of things happen to us that we need to wake up and take a look at ourselves and how we are living our lives. Take a look at our priorities, our actions, and what our past actions and behaviors have gotten us thus far, and what changes we can make in ourselves to get us to where we actually want to go, rather than doing the same things forever, expecting that one day things will finally get better (it won’t if we keep doing the same things).

I realized many things in these last 5 months:

  1. I am responsible for myself and only myself (and if you have children then you are also responsible for taking care of them to the best of your ability).
  2. Others are responsible for themselves, I am not responsible for them. I can’t control others or improve other people’s lives. They have to do that themselves. If I have insight, I can give them insight, but it is up to them to take the appropriate actions to take care of themselves.
  3. I can be myself and I can allow others to be themselves. We are all humans, with flaws and talents, both good and bad qualities. We are all equal, and we are all equally and fully loved by God. All people are capable of doing bad things, and all people can be blessings to others as well.
  4. I don’t have to do everything. I don’t have to do anything extra or unnecessary, and I need to have my priorities straight. I don’t have to live up to other people’s expectations, or even my own expectations I have placed on myself, and the imaginary expectations I think God has of me. I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to do because doing things I don’t want to do would be doing things with the wrong heart and motives. That is not to say that I shouldn’t do what I am responsible for, but if it involves something I am not responsible for, then I should not do it unless my heart is in the right place.
  5. Money is not the most important thing in life. God will take care of our needs. God does want to bless us and He wants us to be happy. But money does not make us happy, and working our lives away just to have more material objects, or to look cool or have a higher social standing is not going to make us happy.
  6. When others are disappointed with me, it is not necessarily my fault. We all grow up gaining different world-views and defenses. We don’t need to take everything personally. Everyone has issues. We ourselves have issues, and it is our responsibility to work on our own personal issues to try to resolve our flawed world-views and useless defenses that we’ve put up to protect ourselves as children, but are actually harmful to us now as adults.
  7. I have learned that my relationship with God is the most important thing, and if I am in close connection to God, everything else actually falls right into place.
  8. Whether or not you believe in God, you can’t go through life alone and you can’t do what you need to do solely through your own power and might. Gaining some form of higher power (HP) who is more powerful than you and can help you do what you cannot do for yourself, is what makes your life manageable and what will eventually bring you serenity.
  9. You don’t have to be a religious person to have or find a higher power. Most of life’s problems are actually spiritual at the root. Spirituality and a connection with God (or higher power) does not necessarily have to be religious. In fact, it’s better if it’s not.
  10. Only a higher power has the power to restore you to sanity. What you give to your higher power (or God) is what your HP will take and deal with for you. But your HP will only take what you surrender, so the key to serenity and sanity is to fully surrender your will and your problems to the God of your understanding.

 
There is hope. In this world, there will be suffering, but that does not mean that all is lost, even if it seems like it now. Try your best at this time to see a broader perspective, that something is happening in your life that needs to happen right now, and it is bigger than you or I. And it can be a huge blessing if you take it by the horns and make the changes in yourself for the better, to bring you a better future. Slowly but surely, we can make the improvements in ourselves, internally, to give us the peace and serenity that we really long for.

What are you struggling with right now that makes you see no hope? Has this message helped give you the perspective you need to move on and make the necessary changes in your life to turn things around for the better? Please leave a comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts! Also, let me know if you have any questions or would like any feedback.

Why I’m Cutting Back On My To-Do List (And You Should Too!)

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Hello Friends,

This message is to let you know that my life has come to a point where I need to re-focus and create a real sense of balance and simplicity. I have discovered that I need to take ample steps to de-clutter everything that is not truly 100% in line with my priorities in life.

I like to walk-the-walk, not just talk-the-talk, and since UpGusto is something that I really want to do, but it’s one of the many many things that have gotten in the way and fogged my clarity about what’s truly important in life, I have to take a step back and re-examine my life and how I’m spending my time.

We all have to do this from time to time. Take some time to reflect and figure out what just isn’t worth it. I’ve been spreading myself too thin, with all my business ventures, and all my family matters, and it’s time to get back to the basics.

UpGusto so far has had an extremely short run. It’s really the only business venture I’ve actually wanted to see come to fruition, and it took me too long to realize that. And I started UpGusto at a time when I really didn’t have the time for it. All I had was the passion to help other people live their best lives, but if I don’t have the time for it, it can’t do it, and it’s as simple as that.

We’re just humans. We’re not super-humans with special powers of being able to do more than is physically possible. I’m just one person and I know that I need to remember that when I’m being called in too many directions.

Most of all, what is important to me is my marriage with my husband, which has been a blessing to me ever since we said “I do.” I have placed too many expectations on myself. Expectations I had of myself to contribute equally to our financial well-being, and expectations that I had to save the world, too. Both of these imaginary expectations that I made up aren’t necessary, and the latter is quite impossible. And to do both at the same time is even harder.

So that’s why I’m taking a step back from UpGusto, and many other business ventures I’ve created along the way, including trying to save the world one person at a time.

I hope I can be an example to you in this, and that you take this as a wake-up call for yourself, and re-examine your life and what you’re doing with your time. Much of what we do on a daily basis is so unimportant.

Think about what (or who) is really important to you. And I mean really important. And shape your life and time around that. I promise you that it will be much more fulfilling :)

Feel free to stick around, continue to follow UpGusto on Twitter and Facebook, and read the articles, listen to the podcasts, and watch the videos, etc.

You can also still sign up for the freebies or the monthly newsletter because those things are set up on an automated system, yay! Either way, I still exist and I’m not falling off the face of the planet or anything. I’m still here, I’m just taking a step back. The monthly newsletter is currently a 6 month newsletter, one per month for 6 months, chock full of some really great tips, tricks, articles, tests, etc. and I really poured my heart and soul into it. It’s only $4.97 per month, for 6 months of exclusive content that only paid subscribers will ever get to have access to, and you can go back to it again and again forever to remind yourself of anything you learned in it.

I’m not making any promises, but there may come a time when I am more freed up and able to devote some time and energy on helping you all live your best lives through this little website, UpGusto. But until then, remember all I’ve taught you thus far.

Thanks for joining me.

To your success, of what success truly means to you,

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How to Remove False or Unhelpful Internalizations From Your Childhood #PODCAST

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What false or unhelpful beliefs are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

Listen up, because this episode is all about how we internalize things from our childhood which hold us back even in our adulthood, and what to do about it. This is a sort of part two from last week, which explained how to form new positive beliefs. This one is all about removing old negative beliefs.

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say! Here’s my thought question for you today:

What internalizations from your childhood are you holding on to that are holding you back in life? What are you going to do about it?

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development. How’s it going out there today?

I was thinking the other day about this song that we learned in school as a kid.

I asked my husband if he ever heard that song and he said No, so I’m not sure if it was just my elementary school, but I got to thinking about this song and what it meant and it really started to upset me because… Well, I’ll sing the song to you so you get what I mean…

One person, starts off by pointing at someone and saying, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar.”

And then everyone repeats it, “Tommy stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

Then Tommy says “No I didn’t”

And everyone says “Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Tommy chooses someone to blame, for cookie thievery, “Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“Sally Stole the cookie from the cookie jar”

“No I didn’t”

“Yes you did”

“No I didn’t”

“Then who?”

Then Sally says, “Johnny stole the cookie from the cookie jar…” and so on.

So the moral of the story is, if someone blames you for something, blame someone else?

Where is this cookie jar, anyway? That’s what I’d like to know. How come we never got any cookies?

Teacher stole the entire cookie jar! Oh yeah she did. That’s what really happened!

Or she never brought us a cookie jar in the first place!

But anyway getting back to seriousness, what this song teaches is pointing the finger, blaming, and lack of taking responsibility.

It’s a really weird song to sing in school for 6 year olds.

So some kids are going to internalize that song and think that everyone is going to blame them for things they didn’t do.

Some kids are going to internalize that song and think they can be mischievous because if they get caught they can just blame it on someone else.

Some kid should just stand up and go “well, I didn’t take any cookies, but I’ll tell you what, I’ll ask my mom if she can bake us a batch of chocolate chip cookies and I’ll bring them to class next time.”

Now that would have been awesome.

I wish I thought of that at the time, but I was way too shy and conservative not to “follow the rules of the game”.

So I went along with it and didn’t think about it until over 20 years later, how screwed up that song is to teach children.

You might say, “Oh who cares? It’s all in good fun. Stop being such a goodie goodie.”

But I say no, it’s more than that. And kids really are actually impressionable. And like I said, we all internalize things as children, and we all internalize different things.

Tony Robbins had a client named Rechaud, who stuttered for his entire life, as long as he could remember.

Tony asked him what his earliest memory was.

He said probably watching Rocky and Bullwinkle cartoon.

Tony said, “That’s interesting. Didn’t Bullwinkle stutter? Every time he was in trouble he would call out “R-R-Rocky”. And Rocky would come and save him and everything would be fine.”

Tony told him that kids typically internalize things because of some sort of trauma.

He asked him what else happened in his childhood? And Rechaud said that his parents used to fight a lot.

Tony said, “So you developed a stutter to get your parents’ attention, to stop the fighting, just like Bullwinkle stuttered when he was in trouble. So now there was a new problem for your parents to focus on, and they stopped fighting. So you’ve stuttered all your life because subconsciously that is what solves your problems. But now you’re a man, and stuttering has become your problem. You don’t have to be a two year old anymore. You can be a man. You can be a warrior. Does a warrior stutter? No!”

Anyway, long story short, Tony did a couple little exercises with Rechaud and he immediately stopped stuttering, for good!

And most people can’t believe this can be true. How can someone just rid themselves of stuttering when it’s been a problem for their entire life?

Well, it’s because when we internalize something, we don’t know why we do it, we just do.

When we realize why we do the things we do, when we realize where the problem stems from, we can finally move on from that problem.

It doesn’t mean you’re always gonna get cured from things once you realize why it’s all happening, but it is possible, and that’s what happened for Rechaud.

What are you internalizing from your childhood?

What bad habits do you keep (even unwillingly) simply because of something you’re holding on to from your childhood?

That’s something to think about and figure out.

So STEP ONE is to figure out what events from your childhood that you have internalized, are holding you back from achieving what success means to you.

And STEP TWO is to go through my 4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs, which you can find at upgusto.com/newbeliefs

Thanks for joining me. Share this with your friends and family, and I’ll be back next time with some more great stuff.

Thanks!

Don’t forget to leave a comment, and answer my thought question that I have for you above. You should be able to see it in the small light-gray box with bolded font. Check it out, and answer it in a comment :)

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4 Steps to Forming New Beliefs and Ridding Yourself of Bad Habits #VIDEO

Ever find it hard to get bad brainwashing out of your subconscious and form new positive thoughts that really stick?

Well, you’ve been programmed for years, so what makes you think you’re going to do it over night?

Be patient, but also, use this trick every single day, and you’ll be closer and closer to forming new positive beliefs that will help you become the best you that you’ve ever been!

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What do you think of this as an idea to form new positive beliefs and rid yourself of bad habits? Have you ever tried it? Leave a comment!

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development, and I wanted to teach you a little trick to change any bad habit in your life.

The funny thing is that we have always told ourselves we are one thing or another (and others have told us too).

So we hold these beliefs about ourselves which hold us back. And when we replace the old belief with a new belief (even if it’s not true yet), we eventually start to believe the new belief over the old one.

I like to say “I am” as if it’s a true statement (even if it isn’t yet).

So instead of thinking, “If only I could lose weight” we can say “I am a healthy person and I do and eat what a healthy person does”.

If we keep telling ourselves that we are healthy, and we only do and eat what a healthy person does, eventually, we will gradually become healthier and live a healthier life.

We will start to see ourselves in a different way. We won’t keep having the same old beliefs about ourselves that we crave junk food.

Instead, we’ll begin to crave vegetables and things that nourish our body, and crave activity over being sedentary.

We can even go into more detail about it to solidify the new belief even more.

Let’s say someone really enjoys fast food, so they eat so much fast food that they can’t lose weight (in fact, they just keep gaining weight).

So they can replace the thought “I really like fast food” with “I hate fast food, it’s so disgusting. I never want to eat fast food again in my life.”

Eventually, if someone said that to themselves every day, they would gradually enjoy fast food less and less until they really didn’t like it and really didn’t want to eat it, and eventually, they really would be disgusted by fast food.

And if they’re not eating fast food, they would have to replace their meals with something else, and it would almost definitely be healthier, so they would be that much more likely to lose weight.

So here’s my four step process for forming new beliefs:

Step one, get a stack of notecards and a pen or marker, and write out all the new beliefs you wish to gain, one belief per notecard.

And every time you have some problem you want to solve about yourself, you can add another notecard to your pile, to create a new belief.

Step two, read each notecard out loud every morning, with a smile on your face, and with an excited, believable tone of voice.

Step three, record yourself reading your new belief notecards out loud and listen to them every day (or multiple times per day).

And finally, Step four, write down each new belief again, every single day in a journal.

This may seem time consuming, but if you want to make a good change in your life, then you’ll do what it takes. It could really only take about 5 minutes per day, so when you think about it that way, would you spend 5 minutes per day to make an awesome change in yourself so you can live a happier life? I would!

So once you feel you’ve mastered something, you can remove the notecard if you want (to save time, since that stack of new beliefs can get pretty big if you’re taking it seriously and adding more new beliefs to your stack).

And if you start to slip back into old patterns, you can always bring that notecard back into your daily reading pile to get back on track again.

This process works because you are reading your new beliefs (so you’re seeing it with your eyes), saying your new beliefs (saying things out loud helps confirm them), writing out your new beliefs (so you’re solidifying the new beliefs even more), and listening to you saying your new beliefs (so you also hear it with your ears).

So doing all of these things together touches on more of the senses and different parts of the brain, which helps it really become ingrained and real to your brain, so that eventually you really believe it about yourself and you start making real positive lasting changes in your life.

So go get some notecards right now and get started.

Do me a quick favor and share this with your friends and family, so they can begin to move forward and achieve the goals and lifestyle they want as well.

And thanks for joining me, I’ll see you next time.

What are some ideas that you have that have helped you form new beliefs to replace your old negative ones? Let me know in a comment!

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How Personal Responsibility Empowers You to Reach Your Goals #PODCAST

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Today I’m revisiting a post from a few months ago because I finally made a podcast out of it so you can listen while you work (or just sit and listen to absorb some good vibes and smart talk).

Listen now to find out how taking personal responsibility increases your self reliance and resourcefulness, and empowers you to actually finally accomplish your goals and turn your dreams to reality.

If you keep blaming your circumstances or your past or other people on your current situation, you’re never going to get what you want out of life. If you take responsibility, then that empowers you to make changes that are necessary to get you to move forward toward your goals.

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Thanks for listening. I always love to hear what you have to say. Here’s my thought question for you today:

What are you relying on in life to stay comfortable instead of using your own personal strength and skills to get ahead? What changes are you going to make to empower yourself to reach your goals?

Do you agree that if you take responsibility for your life that you are that much more likely to succeed?

Let me know what you think! Leave a comment below!

Your comments don’t fall on blind eyes. I read each and every one! Thanks for contributing to the discussion :)

Podcast Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Lisha Yost, Founder of UpGusto Personal Development, and today I wanted to talk to you about personal responsibility.

There was a man named Peter. And he grew up in a poor family. So he knew he had to work really hard to get ahead. So he got really good grades in school. And he even studied other trades and businesses. And eventually he came to run a successful catering business. What he ended up doing was trying to put a lot of his profits back into his business, in advertising and marketing, and into expanding his business and hiring more employees, and giving them top notch benefits and big bonuses every year.

And although he put a lot of his profits back into his business, he still earned a large sum every year, so obviously he taxes were high. A portion of Peter’s income that he slaved away to generate over years of hard work went to the government to use as they see fit. And of course, some of that goes to welfare.

Welfare was created during the great depression in 1935 when the US unemployment rate was at 20% still. This began the dependence on government aid, and that is really what it has become.

George Bernard Shaw, who is a playwright and cofounder of the London School of Economics says that “A government that robs Peter to pay Paul, can expect the support of Paul. So Paul is definitely going to support the government that robs Peter to pay him.

I’m not saying that people shouldn’t give their fair share. If you have more, then you have more to give. But what I am saying is that the government not only is helping family in their time of need, but they also enable families to continue to be in a lifelong time of need.

So these families that are on welfare know that they will always have the government to lean on in their times of need. If they can’t get ahead, it’s okay because they don’t really need to. And so they don’t get ahead. It’s not because they don’t really want to. It’s because it’s really hard. It takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of effort, it takes hard work. It takes patience and sacrifice. And it’s not easy, so most people think that they can’t do it, and not only that, but most people know they don’t have to. So living in poverty has become the status quo for them. It’s become comfortable. And it seems weird and ironic that struggling financially can become comfortable, but that’s what it is. It’s like the woman who stays in the abusive relationship. It’s familiar. It’s harmful, but it’s familiar.

So what harmful things do you keep doing, just because it’s familiar?

People like to complain about their lives and they don’t want to take responsibility, but everyone has the same hope for succeeding whether it be financially, relationally, physically, or spiritually. It’s just that successful people take different steps, and they take different actions, and they make different choices.

What do you want to become successful in? What does success mean to you? Are you going to do what it takes to get there. Are you going to work hard. Are you going to buckle down and get the hard work done? Are you willing to make sacrifices in order to live a better more fulfilling life? Then stop living the status quo, start believing in yourself and start doing what it takes to get to where you want in life.

Do you want to want to lose 20 lbs? Do you want to have a thriving marriage full of passion? Do you want to become a millionaire? Or maybe you want to start a non-profit that helps those that are less fortunate.

What do you want to do with your life?

If you keep blaming your circumstances or your past or other people on your current situation, you’re never going to get what you want out of life. If you take responsibility, then that empowers you to make changes that are necessary to get you to move forward toward your goals.

We’re not in control of everything. But anything that you have control over, then it’s time to take control of it. Start taking personal responsibility for where you are in life right now. And start making the necessary changes to get what you want out of life.

What habits can you change right now, even just a little bit, to get you closer to your goals?

Do it, starting today.

Now I want to hear from you. In a comment below, please answer this question: What are you relying on in life to stay comfortable instead of using your own personal strength and skills to get ahead? What changes are you going to make to empower yourself to reach your goals?